Over are our most up-to-date contestants, Stanley, 26, who operates in trend (part-time, I suppose), and James, 30, who performs in a bookshop. A pleasurable improve from the usual ‘senior government brand forecasting manager’ or ‘marketing and knowledge products and services deputy analyst’ or whatsoever else LinkedIn tends to throw at us.

Read through the full account of the day on the Guardian web site and then return listed here for some really in-depth assessment of whichever they are heading on about.

Stanley on James | James on Stanley

What have been you hoping for?
The prospect to say I’d experimented with everything just before I retire to a life of spinsterdom.

I’d probably give heroin and the fourth collection of Killing Eve a pass up although, Stanley.

What had been you hoping for?
Attraction, engaging discussion and superior food items.

First impressions?
Warm and participating.

One more ‘engaging’ from James and we’re only two responses in. James is a quarter PowerPoint presentation on his grandmother’s side.

What did you talk about?
I spoke about the vogue market and we recognized parallels with his do the job. I moaned about cryptocurrency and he instructed me the plot of his favorite opera.

His desire in trend. Galliano’s home furnishings. My passions in historic Greek literature and my favourite translation of Homer. Relatives fragmentation. Our lives in London.

Style ✅ – Am fascinated by the parallels in between the style marketplace and the publishing world, however also have a experience I don’t want to know them.

Cryptocurrency – Let us hardly ever discuss about this once more.

Galliano’s home furnishings – Not even heading to trouble Googling this, but did you SEE that piece about Lily Allen and her husband’s residence that every person was fawning in excess of for the reason that of its allegedly remarkable inside design and style? It would be like dwelling in the Sylvanian Families residence! Each individual migraine I’d at any time had convened for an AGM in seconds of me commencing to look at it.

He instructed me the plot of his favourite opera – I’m imagining Stanley saying this as if reading it off a card in his have private Area 101.

My pursuits in ancient Greek literature and my favourite translation of Homer – 

Alright so I’m guessing the bookshop James performs in is a small more highbrow than people ones exactly where you weigh the textbooks on a big scale and pay back according to how large the publications are (a staple of late ’90s, early ’00s beleaguered significant streets)

Most awkward second?
There were silences that had been a touch also extended. I accused him of lying about a famous Ukrainian ballet dancer getting a Putin tattoo.

The tattoo factor is genuine. And I can hear people silences from right here. They are achieving out by means of time and grabbing me by the throat.

Good table manners?
No notes! It felt like Lady and the Tramp, as he was so very well mannered when I had a lap comprehensive of crumbs. He was awesome to the cafe workers, way too.

Spoiler: Tramp receives Woman expecting at the close of that movie I certainly simply cannot see nearly anything even approaching that happening right here.

I was heading to say a bonus point for being wonderful to restaurant staff members listed here but then realised you shouldn’t get praise for performing the extremely fundamental first rate thing, however, so few individuals are pleasant to waiters, it’s preposterous.

Excellent table manners?
Impeccable – couldn’t have asked for far more.

Could not have questioned for extra what? More table manners?

Greatest factor about James?
He does not waste power on issues that don’t make him delighted.

Like, uh, this date it’s possible? I’m getting this a little bit like my favourite translation of Homer – really hard to fathom.

Best point about Stanley?
He appeared genuinely interested in my background and didn’t have an edge.

He did not have an edge? Stanley is… a Loaded Tea biscuit?

Describe James in 3 terms.
Intelligent, quiet, laconic.

Intelligent, like that a single individual in your workplace who you all imagine possibly needed to be a linguistics professor or some thing but a cruel twist of fate remaining them as 2nd assistant admin govt in a mid-assortment PR enterprise. They mentally accurate the grammar in the pathetic emails you send them and think your boyfriend could do improved.
Tranquil, like Catherine Zeta-Jones patiently waiting around for her identify to be identified as out at the 2003 Oscars.
LACONIC – now this could possibly be a 1st for this a person. How remarkable. LACONIC, like anyone who is not, regrettably, remotely fascinated in you romantically ever considering that you confessed your favourite ebook was the Fifty Shades a person informed from Christian’s standpoint.

Describe Stanley in three words.
Affable, inquisitive, honest.

AFFABLE, like you might say about the a single neighbour on your tasteful cul-de-sac that you don’t want to kill.
INQUISITIVE, like a grandchild who’s been suspiciously quiet for the last 20 minutes and then comes back again downstairs expressing, ‘Grandad will you perform capture with me with this amusing little ball?’ clutching your 2nd-best ball-gag.
Straightforward, like I’m going to be now: I truly feel like paint observing these two dry.*

*I have nicked this joke from somewhere but can not recall the place. If it’s yours, say hello!

What do you assume James created of you?
It was impossible to explain to: he gave really minimal absent.

But at least you will not die pondering which was his favorite translation of Homer.

What do you believe Stanley created of you?
I’m not absolutely sure. It may perhaps have been to do with my absence of an accent or that he favored my shirt.

James’s solutions really feel like they’ve been edited by a ChatBot. I retain getting rid of my thread. What could have been to do with your absence of accent? FYI: you have an accent.

Did you go on someplace?
I couldn’t imagine of anyplace to get a sober individual on a Friday night time in Soho.

You can consider them everywhere, Stanley. They’re allowed in most areas. Bars, even. As much as I know, bouncers don’t test your blood alcohol stages on your way into a spot and change you absent if you are not 45% Bacardi Breezer (RIP). But Stanley has a position here in that Friday evening in Soho is entire of drunk people and whilst that is wonderful, if you haven’t had alcohol or edibles or hoofed just about anything up your nose, you are likely to find drunk persons a minor, uh, really hard to be about. Cinderella didn’t depart the ball early just mainly because the clock struck midnight, you know, the Prince was six pints of Madri down and experienced started off to convey to her about a motorbike he was performing up with some blokes he fulfilled down the fitness center and how significantly prettier she’d be without the need of make-up.

Marks out of 10?
Not a lover of scores, but he enable me consider his lemon sorbet so I’ll give a major thumbs up.

Not a lover of Pizza? Avoid Domino’s. Not a lover of puppies? Crufts isn’t for you. Not a lover of ratings? Make sure you do not use to go on a Guardian Blind Date the place the entire position is to charge the human being/night/shrimp starter out of 10. It is like getting on a aircraft and indicating, seconds after takeoff, ‘HEY, I did not realise this point was actually heading to depart the floor, wtf?’

I will interpret this score as a

7

Thank you.

8

This feels like a 7 changed to an 8 a few seconds just before James strike ‘send’ on the email.

Would you satisfy again?
Potentially in a various setting. I felt James could be a lot more suited to a coffee store or the opera than central London on a Friday night.

I’d be pleased to cling out.

Nicely, I desire them each a charming time, anywhere their subsequent meeting requires spot (ice skating in the depths of hell, I predict).

 

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The comments I make are based mostly on responses provided by contributors. The Guardian chooses what to publish and generally edits solutions to make the column work greater on the web page. Most items I say are riffing on the solutions presented and not judgements about the daters by themselves, so you should be sort to them in comments, replies, and typically on social media. Daters are underneath no obligation to get together for our profit, or demonstrate why they do, or do not, want to see just about every other once again, so remember to attempt not to speculate or fill our feeds with despise. If you are one particular of the daters, get in contact if you want to give me your side of the tale. Or what ever your favourite translation of this day is. 

Stanley and James ate at Barrafina, London WC2. Extravagant a blind date? E mail [email protected]

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