Swifties know that just one of Taylor Swift’s most passionate tunes was initial unveiled on the deluxe edition of 1989 back in 2014. In “You Are In Appreciate,” Swift sings about an enduring type of really like — a single that feels cozy, like being in a romance with your best pal. Unlike lots of of Swift’s tracks, this keep track of does *not* come from own expertise. “You Are In Love” was in fact inspired by the enjoy tale among two of Swift’s very best pals: Jack Antonoff and Lena Dunham.

Antonoff and Dunham were with each other for six many years just before breaking up in January 2018. (Swift originally introduced “You Are In Love” in Oct 2014.) In 2012, the couple was set up on a blind date by Antonoff’s sister Rachel Antonoff and comedian Mike Birbiglia, for every People.

In excess of the system of their marriage, there were being a lot of every day highlights, which Swift centered on in the tune. “Morning, his position / Burnt toast, Sunday / You continue to keep his shirt / He retains his phrase,” she sings.

Afterwards in the music, she retells the tale of their first main milestone, singing, “One night he wakes / Strange glimpse on his face / Pauses, then claims / You happen to be my greatest friend / And you realized what it was / He is in love.”

According to Swift, the inspiration behind this track arrived specifically from Antonoff and Dunham. When questioned about the “You are my finest friend” lyric by Elle in 2015, Swift stated, “Yeah. I’ve in no way experienced that, so I wrote that tune about things that Lena has instructed me about her and Jack. That is just mainly things she’s told me. And I imagine that that kind of partnership — God, it sounds like it would just be so beautiful — would also be really hard. It would also be mundane at moments.”

Evidently, the tune arrived to Swift right after Antonoff despatched her the instrumentals. In Oct 2014, she instructed Jimmy Kimmel:

I wrote it with my pal Jack Antonoff who’s courting my buddy Lena. Jack despatched me this tune, it was just an instrumental monitor he was working on and right away I realized the tune it essential to be. And I wrote it as a type of commentary on what their connection has been like. So it is essentially me searching and likely, ‘This transpired and that transpired, then that happened and that is how you knew you are in enjoy.’

Although composing the track, Swift didn’t notify Antonoff or Dunham that they were her inspiration. She did not want to seem “creepy,” she spelled out in a 2014 MTV online video with Antonoff. Having said that, she at some point came thoroughly clean.

In the MTV video clip, Swift advised Antonoff, “These lyrics that I [was] creating were being channeling everything Lena’s informed me about the two of you … You guys are like the benchmark of true correct true like.”

As the music goes, “’Cause you can hear in the silence / You can really feel it on the way dwelling / You can see it with the lights out / You are in love, genuine appreciate.”

So, how did Antonoff and Dunham go from inspiring this monitor to breaking up 4 yrs following its launch? In Might 2018, Dunham wrote about their breakup for Vogue, 5 months soon after the reality:

We sat in our shared kitchen area of approximately four years and quietly confronted each individual other, acknowledging what nobody wanted to say. That obsessive connection experienced turned to blind devotion, and the blinders were coming off to reveal that we had advanced independently (the the very least surprising reason of all and possibly the most typical). That anger was not hot or sustainable. That our hearts ended up continue to damaged from hoping so hard to fix it but no extended unsure about whether or not or not we could. The finality just about killed me.

Two yrs later on, in 2020, Dunham instructed Cosmopolitan United kingdom they ended up nevertheless “dear, dear” buddies.

Now, equally Antonoff and Dunham are married to various folks. Dunham wed musician Luis Felber in September 2021, and Swift was a single of her bridesmaids. Swift was also on the visitor record in August 2023, when Antonoff married Margaret Qualley.