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Since I started writing Baggage Reclaim<\/em>, I\u2019ve become increasingly mindful of where I tend to take things personally. These instances always point back at old hurts and narratives that I need to confront in some way. Of course, I\u2019m not alone in taking things personally\u2014we all do it in certain contexts or as a general habit. Part of evolving our relationship with ourselves and improving emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being is becoming conscious of where we take things too personally and why and breaking these patterns by having very conscious responses.\u00a0<\/p>\n Hence, when things don\u2019t go as you expect or want, you make it about something to do with you. You make it about what you\u2019ve failed to be or do or how worthy\/enough you are.\u00a0<\/p>\n It\u2019s not that people don\u2019t do things to piss you off, get on your last nerve, and that overstep. Welcome to life. It\u2019s not even that some folks don\u2019t engage in shady and abusive carry-on\u2014they do. It\u2019s, quite frankly, unrealistic for humans\u00a0not<\/em>\u00a0to take something that directly affects us personally to\u00a0some<\/em>\u00a0degree.\u00a0<\/p>\n The problems come when we go beyond acknowledging our upset about something and then\u00a0personalise it.<\/em>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n We take unwanted and painful events or what someone has done and internalise it as something about us that effectively Jedi mind tricked them into doing something different from what they would or should have done otherwise. <\/p>\n Taking things personally involves:<\/strong><\/h4>\n
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Taking things personally is based on believing you can control the uncontrollable with people pleasing, perfectionism, overgiving, overthinking and over-responsibility.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n